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Preventing Offended
By: KH Abdullah Gymnastiar
By: KH Abdullah Gymnastiar
ManajemenQolbu.Com : One of the causes we fight is that we were not resistant to the behavior of people to us, which eventually led to hurt and offended when we usually have to defend ourselves, then the next level of thinking ill of others.
We have to practice not easily offended, because we rarely speak but when he offended our charitable savings out of anger, once angry eyes glaring ... words like a knife slicing, sometimes like a hammer hit yet again to play the hand, foot could swear , has many rewards that we collect is lost because we could not take allusion.
We have to practice not easily offended, because we rarely speak but when he offended our charitable savings out of anger, once angry eyes glaring ... words like a knife slicing, sometimes like a hammer hit yet again to play the hand, foot could swear , has many rewards that we collect is lost because we could not take allusion.
Why are people offended? people offended by the judge himself is more of a reality, feel smart, feel meritorious, feeling pious, feel beautiful, feel successful, every time we continue to judge ourselves more than the fact if there who judge a little less direct,.... would be offended.
So there is something we have to fix that is proportional to judge ourselves, we usually open up opportunities offended that we were wrong in judging ourselves.
So the first technique that we are not easily offended is not to judge more to ourselves; do
many remember that I have rendered, I am a teacher, my leader, my people have done, because the more we claim to admit about ourselves that makes us more irritable.
So there is something we have to fix that is proportional to judge ourselves, we usually open up opportunities offended that we were wrong in judging ourselves.
So the first technique that we are not easily offended is not to judge more to ourselves; do
many remember that I have rendered, I am a teacher, my leader, my people have done, because the more we claim to admit about ourselves that makes us more irritable.
Specifically in this case in terms that are not easily offended, let's say if we forget an undergraduate scholarship, or we forget a director of our office, if we forget cleric cleric us, if
a leader we forget, if we forget a well-known, if we forget a wealthy, think of all of this mandate, in terms that we are not greedy to the award.
If we are not greedy it will be lighter, we must train ourselves to feel just a mere servant of God who does not have anything except the knowledge given by God a little, more do not know, we have no possessions except the slightest particle of God entrusted, we have no office or position of a particle at all except that God gives. With just a servant of God feels it will light our lives, because more and want to be appreciated, the more to be complimented, increasingly want to be respected, will more often hurt.
a leader we forget, if we forget a well-known, if we forget a wealthy, think of all of this mandate, in terms that we are not greedy to the award.
If we are not greedy it will be lighter, we must train ourselves to feel just a mere servant of God who does not have anything except the knowledge given by God a little, more do not know, we have no possessions except the slightest particle of God entrusted, we have no office or position of a particle at all except that God gives. With just a servant of God feels it will light our lives, because more and want to be appreciated, the more to be complimented, increasingly want to be respected, will more often hurt.
The second technique is that we must see that whatever people do to us it is beneficial if we can respond with the right attitude. Like the theory of throwing a cat, he said if the cat stoned, then the cat was more busy than to see people throwing stones. We will not lose by the behavior of people to us if we respond with the right attitude, the loss it is when we are wrong to address the incident, and in fact we can not force others to do as we wish.
All we can do is to force ourselves to respond to others with our best attitude. People say to us that whatever happens with the permission of God, just think of this episode or exams we have to experience to test our faith.
All we can do is to force ourselves to respond to others with our best attitude. People say to us that whatever happens with the permission of God, just think of this episode or exams we have to experience to test our faith.
"Be sure we shall give unto temptation, with something of fear, hunger, lack of wealth, lives and fruits. And give glad tidings to those who wait (QS: 2; 155)"
"(That) People who, when disaster struck, they say Innaa lillaahi wa innaa ilaihi raaji'uun (QS: 2; 156)"
"Those who got a perfect blessing and mercy from their Lord, and they are the ones who got a clue (QS: 2; 157)"
"(That) People who, when disaster struck, they say Innaa lillaahi wa innaa ilaihi raaji'uun (QS: 2; 156)"
"Those who got a perfect blessing and mercy from their Lord, and they are the ones who got a clue (QS: 2; 157)"
The third technique is that we have empathy, that is starting to see things not from our side, as elephants theory "there is one who leads an elephant in front, another behind, the front said" Ohh ... beautiful scenery throughout the day,.... then thrown from the back for being sarcastic, because the person behind the scenery along the road in front of it is an elephant's ass "Therefore we must learn empathy, if easily offended do not want to find a thousand and one reasons for can understand other people. the point is that we do not easily annoyed and offended that causes emotion. It must be remembered a thousand reasons that we made made to understand rather than to justify an error, so that we can control ourselves.
The fourth technique is to make the farm self-improvement, so as to face the insult of a chance, just insults, bad behavior to our people into the fields for us to practice the virtue of forgiving those who hurt, returning evil with good. Episode is the episode hurt the quality of self-improvement. Wallahu a'lam. [manajemenqolbu.com]***
(Spoken in the Assembly on Sunday morning Daarut Tauhid Masjid Bandung, July 21, 2002)
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